Monday, February 27, 2012's a daily thing!

Hello everyone. Hope it was a great weekend. We are entering full wedding mode over in my neck of the woods. Saturday was dress shopping with my FDIL ( future daughter in law) and the BM's ( bridesmaids). It was a long day, and although no dress was decided upon, we had fun. My niece and I missed my sister-in-law so much that day, and there were a few teary moments in the car. Beth would have loved participating in this. I smile to think of some of the comments she might have made while the girls were trying on dresses. She could be brutally honest and funny at the same time! I have so many things hidden in my heart that I want to tell her. I whisper them to her often because I know she can hear. A small comfort, but oh, how I wish she was here to participate in this family wedding. She would have loved all the preparations so much.
 Soon it will be time to shop for my dress. I should be looking forward to that, but I would like to be model slim when I purchase it, and I'm not.....yet!  I'm 5'4" and curvy, so that's one dream that isn't going to happen, unless I can find a way to get taller and thinner at the same time! But I can be slimmer, and that's my goal. I know this is going to require some focus, some denial and some hard work. I'm up for it. 

I got up this morning and re-motivated myself. I find that you have to do that often. It doesn't just apply to losing weight. It can be to quit smoking, to start an exercise program, or any goal you choose.Whatever you are doing, whatever your goals, re-motivating yourself frequently is key. Write down why you want to change. Put down all the look better in photos, to move around easier, to be healthier, to look like a knockout in your mother of the groom dress......whatever it is, write it down. I like to use an index card and keep it somewhere I can refer to often. It will help keep you focused in the middle of the day, when you are reaching for something that you don't need,and wasn't planned. It will help you stay the course, like your own personal navigation system. I got this idea form a book called The Beck Diet Solution. It is not a eating plan diet book, but a book on changing behaviors using cognitive therapy. I'm not a psychologist, but it teaches you to replace negative self talk with positive talk. It is a good book and can be a useful companion to whatever plan you are trying to follow. Learning to replace that negative voice in our head, is the first step in changing any behavior. Because we are worth it, and we are good enough......AND WE CAN DO IT!!

Thought for the day: Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek.- Mario Andretti


  1. Hi Pattie, It sure sounds like you all had fun dress shopping and I'm sure she was there in spirit with all of you.
    I love your thought too. Have a great day :-)

  2. You CAN do it! You are motivated and strong and I have faith in you!

  3. How far out did you say the wedding is? Read the success stories at . Those will give you a huge shot of inspiration. You are beautiful no matter what your weight , but I fully appreciate your wanting to be a knockout in your dress. :)

  4. Oh Pattie - She IS there, right there with you through all of this. I am willing to bet that you are going to start seeing lots of orbs in your pictures through all of this....that is her, showing you that she is seriously RIGHT THERE. "Don't Kiss Them Goodbye" by Allison DuBois is a fabulous book to help remind you of that...
    BIG (((HUGS))) to you!

  5. I agree with Minichick, you'll be beautiful in your dress no matter what your weight! I do agree with keeping yourself motivated though. That's one reason I liked reading about people's success stories on Rosalie's blog earlier in the week. I love hearing how others did it and to get ideas that will work! WE WILL DO IT!

  6. You will look beautiful! I love all of your ideas on pinterest. I watch the show "say yes to the dress" and love it. I also watch the Housewives shows!!! Train wrecks for sure!
    I'm sure you will be thinking of Beth often, just smile when she comes to your mind, as hard as it is, smile.
    As expensive as weddings are I am kind of glad that my oldest daughter just had a reception. Her hubby left for Iraq right before they married, so they did it at the justice of the peace in N.C. I wasn't even there!
    I love your quote! It really is true. This whole thing is so much more of a head issue than a tummy issue:)
    Hugs back at you!

  7. Find your joy where ever you can Pattie-