Monday, February 27, 2012
Remotivation....it's a daily thing!
Hello everyone. Hope it was a great weekend. We are entering full wedding mode over in my neck of the woods. Saturday was dress shopping with my FDIL ( future daughter in law) and the BM's ( bridesmaids). It was a long day, and although no dress was decided upon, we had fun. My niece and I missed my sister-in-law so much that day, and there were a few teary moments in the car. Beth would have loved participating in this. I smile to think of some of the comments she might have made while the girls were trying on dresses. She could be brutally honest and funny at the same time! I have so many things hidden in my heart that I want to tell her. I whisper them to her often because I know she can hear. A small comfort, but oh, how I wish she was here to participate in this family wedding. She would have loved all the preparations so much.
Soon it will be time to shop for my dress. I should be looking forward to that, but I would like to be model slim when I purchase it, and I'm not.....yet! I'm 5'4" and curvy, so that's one dream that isn't going to happen, unless I can find a way to get taller and thinner at the same time! But I can be slimmer, and that's my goal. I know this is going to require some focus, some denial and some hard work. I'm up for it.
I got up this morning and re-motivated myself. I find that you have to do that often. It doesn't just apply to losing weight. It can be to quit smoking, to start an exercise program, or any goal you choose.Whatever you are doing, whatever your goals, re-motivating yourself frequently is key. Write down why you want to change. Put down all the reasons...to look better in photos, to move around easier, to be healthier, to look like a knockout in your mother of the groom dress......whatever it is, write it down. I like to use an index card and keep it somewhere I can refer to often. It will help keep you focused in the middle of the day, when you are reaching for something that you don't need,and wasn't planned. It will help you stay the course, like your own personal navigation system. I got this idea form a book called The Beck Diet Solution. It is not a eating plan diet book, but a book on changing behaviors using cognitive therapy. I'm not a psychologist, but it teaches you to replace negative self talk with positive talk. It is a good book and can be a useful companion to whatever plan you are trying to follow. Learning to replace that negative voice in our head, is the first step in changing any behavior. Because we are worth it, and we are good enough......AND WE CAN DO IT!!
Thought for the day: Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek.- Mario Andretti