Monday, July 11, 2011

"Decide that it is true, and it is true"

Hello everyone! All good things must come to an end and I'm back home from my week at the beach. Isn't it funny how you go crazy trying to get everything in order before you leave for vacation, so that you don't have much to do when you get back. But then you get back, and there is all the stuff ( mail, bills, work stuff) that kept piling up while you were gone. But I vowed to try and get to my blog at least every couple of days. I would love for everyday, but I usually set goals too high and then feel miserable when I don't succeed. That is something I am working on, setting reachable, achievable goals.

My blog title today is a quote from Amber (yes that bikini babe Amber!). She and I got to tweeting this weekend and she said some beautiful things to me. I had tears streaming down my cheeks when I read her blog because I really felt like she was talking to me. I told her I don't really believe I will every achieve my goals, if I am to be honest. I know making up your mind is the first step, but sometimes I just don't know if I can do it.

She tweeted back: "just make that decision! You are a beautiful women and u can have everything u want! Decide that is true, and it is true ". It really touched me, a deep part of me. I wondered what does it take to make the difference between those of you who have done it and someone like me who is struggling to do it. Can I ever really get back to that goal weight that I want to be at? Sometimes I don't think I can. Is that little bit of skepticsim and negativity holding me back? I think so. I have to believe I can do it.

But I get strength from all of your blogs, and I know you all are a much needed support system for me. Maybe that will be the difference this time. I have some real people that I can turn to for help, motivation and support. I noticed how we all lift each other up with words of encouragement, but often the words we speak to ourselves are negative and critical. I am trying to be kinder to myself with my thoughts and my words.

So I don't weigh in until Wednesday. I hope the scale doesn't show all of the sins of vacation. but I am confessing that I had 1/2 of a white peach, probably way too many blueberrries, definitely some white carbs and let's not even talk about the wine. Isn't it funny how I'm feeling guilty about overdoing the fruit somewhat!

Until next time!

Thought for the day: "You can have everything you want" - Amber. S.


  1. I love that you are feeling guilty about the fruits! I actually had my trainer tell me that fruit and milk sugars don't count towards the 25 grams of sugar that is 'recommended' for healthy eating. I was mentally totaling up that sugar count and trying not to groan out loud. LOL.
    I am glad you had a great vacation! I also think that success is all in your mind. When we think there's no way we can accomplish some *thing* how could we possibly achieve that goal? You have to believe. I actually have to set myself lots of little goals. Once i reach one goal, I set myself a new goal. It's very motivating to keep on reaching goals!

    So, take care, and set some goals! :)

  2. Thanks Pattie, you are so sweet! I was just telling you what I told my sad self those months I struggled. There was a really unhappy time in my life and I was watching Larry King one night years ago with the Judd Mom on. The TV was just on the background and that Judd Mom really annoys me, so I was barely listening. But she said "So, I just decided I was done being sad and I would just be happy" and he said "And its just that easy" and she said "yes, it is". Or at least that is how I remember it! And it always stuck with me. I realized I was choosing to be unhappy and I could be happy despite my situation. So that is what happened with this diet and me, I decided it was going to work, and then I made it work! I am looking forward to your bikini pic Pattie!

    So jealous of you beach house! I think you need to host a BFC Bloggers wkend at it ;-)

  3. Hi Pattie,
    I just started this diet in April, so I still have a long way to go myself!! In fact I still have about 25lbs to go. I weigh myself on Wednesdays too. Its a nice safe middle of the week time to do it. I think this diet does work but it is slow. I think what helped me most in the very beginning was finding a few favorite things to eat that are allowed and having them a lot. For me it was pita pizzas I cook on the grill. I had them every day for lunch for about the first two weeks at least. I like reading your blog because you seem so honest and real!

  4. Hi Pattie, I'm so glad that you had a nice time at the beach!!! Hubby and I really enjoyed our time in southern californina...ahhh good memories. I know what you mean it is so much easier to be encouraging to others and not so nice to ourselves. Being kind to ourselves is important. I'm glad to hear that Amber has been such and inspiration and source of encouragement to you. I love how the blog community allows us to connect with other bfc'rs in a way that is genuine. Have a great day Pattie, be kind to yourself :)

  5. You can do this Pattie! I know you can. I wouldn't have given myself a snowball's chance in Hell of staying off sweets for 4 months! I have watched my daughter and daughter in law try different things that last 4 months, if they had just joined me instead of looking for a quick fix, we could all be doing great together. I think the less fat my tummy has, the more interested they become.
    Have a talk with yourself...
    "Self, I am going to follow the BFC to the best of my ability, being honest with my Self. I will lose you hear me Self?"

  6. Hi Pattie, I have to tell you that I never knew that this was going to work for me. I just decided - what the hell - I can't get worse. And here I am today 85lbs down at the age of 52. I know that if you just keep sticking to the BFC - it WILL work for you too.
    Don't worry about what you ate - just worry about tomorrow and the next day.
    I know you can do it. I believe it you :-)